Proud? Proud Of What Exactly?
Being Proud of your skin color, your gender, your nationality, your tribe, your sexual orientation seems to me so stupid. If you want to be proud, do something beneficial to mankind and stop bragging about things you had by mere chance.
It’s no doubt to me that there is nothing wrong with being white/male/heterosexual/Iraqi as I am, but really? Did I choose any of those? Was it given to me as a result of any achievement? Was it given to me as a prize? Do any of these characteristics contribute to me being a good person or a bad person? Or better/worse than anybody else who may have different characteristics as me?
No, I don’t think so. And that’s the reason why I am writing this article.
I am pretty sure many reading this article have encountered some other people saying or signs somewhere that read, “I am proud of being a MAN,” “I am proud of being a WOMAN,” “I am proud of being a GAY,” “I am proud of being a STRAIGHT,” “I am proud of being a AMERICAN,” “I am proud of being a INDIAN,” “I am proud of being a BLACK,” “I am proud of being a WHITE,” etc. etc.
Can you notice how stupid these statements look like when using different examples?
Using my little Oxford Dictionary:
a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from achievements, qualities, or possessions that do one credit.
What have any of us done to achieve, possess, or qualify for being a man or a woman?
Did we choose the sperm of our dads and the egg of our moms? Did we choose when? And where? And which skin color the parents were?
Did we even choose to be born in the first place? The characteristics that I have talked about “gender/skin color/ sexual orientation” have nothing to do with your achievements. They are genetic; they are out of your control.
I understand some of the arguments used against what I am saying, that in the example of “I am proud of being a WOMAN,” that it is used by some feminists and doesn’t mean pride in the literal sense, it simply means “I am not ashamed of being a woman” which is a response to some misogynist crackpots who look at women as inferior human beings, but would it be smart to fight stupidity with other stupidity?
Other than responding with the same kind of language of “pride”? In my opinion, it would be much more intelligent to respond with a question like “How did you to choose to be a male?” “It must have been really tough job you have done before you were born to be qualified as a male,” and I am pretty sure there are tons of other examples to be used.
Same thing can be said to people claiming that Homosexuals are inferior to Heterosexuals, you can respond with sarcastic questions like, “Oh, when did you choose to be straight? How have you done that? Which school have you been to? Which classes have you taken?” etc.
The characteristics that I have mentioned earlier should play no part in respect or disrespect; respect is something to be earned as a result of good behaviors, achievements, hard work, honesty, loyalty etc.
An example of that is one of my life inspires: “Marie Curie.” The reason why I have so much admiration for Marie Curie is not because she was a ‘white polish woman’; I respect her because she was one of the greatest scientists in the 20th century, and her wonderful discoveries led to huge development in science and opened to many new gates in scientific research and inquiry.
If Marie Curie ever said “I am proud of what I have done,” YES, she is using the term correctly! Because what she had is really compatible with the actual definition of pride!
I hope that one day people would use pride and respect where they should be, and not something that they can delude themselves and others about.
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